Silly me! I was so excited about the second part that I forgot what was exciting about the first part!
Giving the little ones your attention, and allowing yourself to become attuned to them is not just for survival, oh no!
You know that part about the second part that I wrote first. The part where we need to correct our false stories. Well this is the part in the little ones lives where these things are created! This is where they start learning about who they are!
So, when they look at your eyes and you are looking back at them you are saying, "I see you very well! You are important". They are saying, "look at me! Watch me jump!" and you are saying "I see you very well.. You are strong and adventurous!" when they are are asking a million questions and you look at them and hear them and work on answering them together you are saying, "your thoughts are important, your curiosity helps you to learn!"
Also, when they make a wrong choice, or cause someone pain or suffering or anger.. We can look at them and sit with them and help them to see it very well.. And then tell them that this is what is, but it does not change that you are loved.
You is smart, you is kind, you is important.
Or, you know, we get busy and get angry and get annoyed. And then we say to them, "you is wrong, you is bad and you is not important"
We are not perfect (have compassion). And so the other great part is that when this inevitably does happen we can show them something else. We can ask for forgiveness. We can explain. We can show them.. Sometimes people are distracted... Sometimes people are having a bad day... Sometimes people get too busy... And none of those things has anything to do with you.
Maybe we can show them about compassion too. Compassion for me and compassion for you.
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