Have I got your attention?

Excuse me for taking so long to figure this out.

But I finally understand...

The reason that they are trying desperately to get our attention, to have us look at them is so that we will see them. They need to be seen and experienced.. WE need to be seen and experienced. Because we need to be known.  They need (we need) someone to be attuned to us.

When they are young it is vital to their survival. They need someone to understand what they need because they can't understand or articulate it themselves yet.

As we grow I think the need becomes deeper though. Different than just survival. We need to be known so we can be helped, for sure. But also.. The process of attunement with others and the greater world around us forces us to see where we have created false assumptions, and incorrect stories about ourselves and our reality.

This is bound to happen.. These inaccuracies. After all, we have only one perspective (ours), and we are often being offered incorrect information to work with (the inaccurate perspectives of others). However, we can help each other. With atunement to different perspectives we can triangulate a more accurate picture of ourselves and what is.

This process can be very uncomfortable. And we often mistake this discomfort as being because of another person's problem. "This is their fault, if only they would see things the way I do.. " but then we will miss it. We can always be the ones to learn,and we can always be the ones to benefit too. It takes courage and great compassion (and always non judgment) but not too much effort. Just allow it to happen.

And now, with this awareness.. I must allow it too.