Just a Theory

I have this theory that I'm trying out about people and feelings and thoughts and conflict and ideas and situations and stuff. The story that I tell myself is that if I am seeking my path, and cultivating honest awareness with myself, and always letting go, that the people and thoughts and situations and feelings and stuff that are good and helpful will come into my life, and the people and situations and thoughts and feelings and things and stuff that are not good and helpful will fall out.

This is just a theory. One of my ongoing social experiments on myself.

Seeking the path.. I think means my intention. Maybe I wonder if it means something different to another person..  But to me it means the intention to build up (myself and others) ahead of any other personal goals.

Cultivating honest awareness.. I think I mean healing myself. Learning to look at my thoughts and feelings objectively and honestly. Learning what they are and where they came from. Maybe not even judging them or trying to change them. Just seeing thoughts and feelings for what they are. I think this might help me avoid the automatic jump from feeling/thought to defensiveness/blaming. I'm hoping it might make it possible for me to really hear and understand (myself and others).

Letting go..  There's a lot of letting go. Letting go of control is the big one. It is not my job to fix other people's problems. I don't know what's best for them. Their choices are not mine to make. That's huge right! That feeling deep down when I look at someone doing something I don't think is right. That solid feeling of being right. That is the control. I think.

And when I say letting go (of control or thoughts or habits) I don't really mean making myself not be doing that. I've tried that, it doesn't work. I think all that is required is awareness. Like "oh look there, I see you there, that solid feeling of being right." and just seeing it there and holding it in that place of stillness. It kinda takes care of itself. It falls off.

Maybe that's where my theory comes from.

But anyways, these ideas seem to come out all airy fairy and oversimplified, but end up being applied in interestingly specific ways. 

I'm trying it out to see what happens.